September 2, 2021

Choosing your bridal party is not an easy task, especially if you are Miss Popular and want to make sure all of your friends feel equally important and included. However, weddings are stressful as it is, and you do not want to add additional drama from your bridal party. What is the best way to pick your bridal party and avoid any hurt feelings? Read on to find out the secret tips!

Finalise your total count 

The first thing you need to do is figure out how many people you would like to have in your bridal party. It is best to stick with an even number so that it looks balanced and equal on both sides when it comes to taking pictures. Usually, most couples go for four bridesmaids and four groomsmen. 

Choose your forever crowd

A good way to pick your bridal party is by asking yourself, ‘will this person still be in my life 10 years from now?’. If your answer is yes, then you can add them to your bridal party. It is courtesy to include your unmarried siblings in your bridal party. Next, your childhood best friends and any other close friends that you can always count on no matter the situation. Avoid picking people that you aren’t very close to or people your parents want you to include (that you may not necessarily like) as this will lead to endless drama. Something you want to be avoiding on your wedding day. 

Create your mood board

Once you have your bridal party finalised, now comes the fun part. Start looking for inspiration on colours, styles and flower arrangements that go with your colour scheme and wedding theme. A good place to start is Pinterest. You can play around with different colours, styles of dresses and flower arrangements until you are satisfied. It is nice to allow all the members of your bridal party to have an element that represents themselves and their unique attributes. You can allow them to choose a style of their liking from the colour that you have picked out. 

A role for everyone 

If you were unable to include all of your favourite people in your bridal party, fear not, you can make them feel special in another way. There are so many things that need to be handled in order to make sure that a wedding runs smoothly. You can assign important tasks to your friends and family that you weren’t able to include in your bridal party so that they do not feel left out. 

Rules are meant to be broken 


There aren’t any rules set in stone when it comes to your bridal party’s attire, roles, or selection. The only rule you need to follow is what you think is right. You can even pick your male best friend to be in your bridal party (just make sure you dress him up in a suit and not a dress). You can also get your bridal party to wear westernised clothing while you wear traditional wedding attire to blend culture and fashion and create the most beautiful wedding party. 


Think twice before you ask 


Remember, weddings are very stressful and sometimes stressful situations truly test the strength of our friendships and connections with others. If you have a close friend or family member that you want to include in your bridal party but  you know things can get heated up with them when it comes to certain situations, it's best to think twice before inviting them. Unnecessary drama or conflict is the last thing you need when planning your wedding. Picking bridesmaids who understand your vision, are willing to make you happy and support you will make your wedding planning so much more fun and easier. 

No hard feelings


You don’t need to include someone in your bridal party just because you were a bridesmaid or flower girl at their wedding. Yes, it is nice to include them out of courtesy however, sometimes this is not possible, and you don’t need to feel bad if you aren’t able to invite them. It's always nice and respectful if you can communicate to them why you aren’t able to include them and instead you can assign some other important role to them so they feel included in some way. 

Now that you know how to pick your bridal party, you can have a stress-free, drama-free wedding filled with lots of laughter, fun and joy!